By Deanne Brennan 

I enjoy this time between Christmas and New Year, it’s all about relaxation and reflection. I tend to do more relaxation than reflection….because I’m really good at relaxing! It’s nice to reflect but I’m a huge fan of planning and find a lot of excitement and joy in it.

My process of reflecting this year was unloading my happiness jar. Most days (everyday seems a little OCD to me) I would write down on a post-it note things that made me smile, laugh or appreciate life that little bit more. At the time of starting it I thought it seemed like a nice thing to do. Some days I would write on 7 post-it notes and there were a few days I couldn’t bring myself to look at it.

I absolutely loved reading every post-it note. There were many moments I had forgotten about. Lots made me laugh and half way through the jar I was in tears….with my own happiness. My biggest surprise was a post-it note about my darkest day (to date) of my life. I’m terrible with dates but I still remember 6th January. I lost my first baby. I could down play my pain and mention it was early in the pregnancy….but when you want something so much for 10 years…and then lose it…it’s nothing but heartbreaking. Weeks later i wrote on a post-it note ‘Sandra the midwife at Calvary. 6th Jan 2015’. Sandra looked after me in hospital that day, physically and emotionally. I was completely touched by her compassion for me.

Why am I telling you this….I am a life and wellness coach…all my days are not filled with O/S adventures and laying by the pool. Shit happens to all of us and having tools and resources is what helps me build resilience and get back on my feet. That dark day was only one post-it note and I still managed to find some magic in it.

I hope you’ll start a happiness jar this year.

My 2015 happiness jar

About author: Deanne Brennan is a Life and Wellness Coach, Massage Therapist and Mindfulness Meditation Teacher. She is a big advocate for d.i.y health and happiness and loves sharing with others what works for her.